Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Monday, May 24, 2010
Children Need Positive Not Negative Talk To Succeed In Life.
Have you ever thought about the way that you talk to your children. I have been reading this book called The Power of Positive Talk by Douglas Bloch, M.A, it is very educational for us parents, it makes you think.
Stop and actually listen to yourself one day. Are you giving negative talk or positive talk?
I realise now, that I am guilty of this with my daughter, not even realising how much impact it would have on her later in life.
When we're watching our children play sport, how many times have you heard a parent say to their son or daughter "what was that? You can do better than that or What do you call that, I bet your brother could do much better.
Instead of using positive words like- great shot, you better teach me that or I loved that move, you had him fooled.
Using positive words builds a child's character. Their self confidence and self esteem is built up immensely and they feel as though they can achieve anything.
This will later help them to succeed in their adult years. They will have more confidence when applying themselves to their work and when they get into difficult or hard times they will be able to work through it.
Problem solving will seem a breeze.
I'm sure that a lot of parents don't even realise what they are doing. But putting a child down or giving negative feed back can sometimes cause them to withdraw and maybe become depressed. Children that here negative words all the time lose their self confidence and think that they are not good enough and may even give sport away.
This then can lead into their studies, where they give up far to easily because they do not have the confidence. They believe that its to hard and theres no possible way they are good enough to work it out and why wouldn't they believe this when they have heard it all their life.
Remember all children would like to here is praise and encouragement. They want your love and understanding that they are doing the best that they can. Be supportive, not negative.
They will thank you in years to come. (read the book, it will change the way you speak to your children)
Happy Parenting......Happy Children.
parenthood
Stop and actually listen to yourself one day. Are you giving negative talk or positive talk?
I realise now, that I am guilty of this with my daughter, not even realising how much impact it would have on her later in life.
When we're watching our children play sport, how many times have you heard a parent say to their son or daughter "what was that? You can do better than that or What do you call that, I bet your brother could do much better.
Instead of using positive words like- great shot, you better teach me that or I loved that move, you had him fooled.
Using positive words builds a child's character. Their self confidence and self esteem is built up immensely and they feel as though they can achieve anything.
This will later help them to succeed in their adult years. They will have more confidence when applying themselves to their work and when they get into difficult or hard times they will be able to work through it.
Problem solving will seem a breeze.
I'm sure that a lot of parents don't even realise what they are doing. But putting a child down or giving negative feed back can sometimes cause them to withdraw and maybe become depressed. Children that here negative words all the time lose their self confidence and think that they are not good enough and may even give sport away.
This then can lead into their studies, where they give up far to easily because they do not have the confidence. They believe that its to hard and theres no possible way they are good enough to work it out and why wouldn't they believe this when they have heard it all their life.
Remember all children would like to here is praise and encouragement. They want your love and understanding that they are doing the best that they can. Be supportive, not negative.
They will thank you in years to come. (read the book, it will change the way you speak to your children)
Happy Parenting......Happy Children.
parenthood
Sunday, April 25, 2010
Raisin Biscuit Cookies
Here is a healthy recipe that I found in a Great Book called Healthy Eating For Kids by Anita Bean.
Great as a snack and lunch box filler. These raisin biscuit cookies are low in sugar and high in fibre.
Easy to make and fun for the kids to make with your help.
Makes 20
INGREDIENTS
225g (8oz) wholemeal plain flour
40g (11/2 oz) brown sugar
85g (3oz) raisins (you could also try sultanas or cranberries)
2 tblsp (30ml) rapeseed oil
1 egg
4 tblsp (60ml) milk
METHOD
1/ Preheat oven to 180 degrees C.
2/ Combine flour, sugar and raisins ina bowl.
3/ Stir in the oil, egg and milk and lightly mix together
until you have a stiff dough.
4/ Place spoonfuls of the mixture onto lightly greased tray.
5/ Bake for 12-15 minutes until golden brown.
Happy Baking!
healthy eating
Great as a snack and lunch box filler. These raisin biscuit cookies are low in sugar and high in fibre.
Easy to make and fun for the kids to make with your help.
Makes 20
INGREDIENTS
225g (8oz) wholemeal plain flour
40g (11/2 oz) brown sugar
85g (3oz) raisins (you could also try sultanas or cranberries)
2 tblsp (30ml) rapeseed oil
1 egg
4 tblsp (60ml) milk
METHOD
1/ Preheat oven to 180 degrees C.
2/ Combine flour, sugar and raisins ina bowl.
3/ Stir in the oil, egg and milk and lightly mix together
until you have a stiff dough.
4/ Place spoonfuls of the mixture onto lightly greased tray.
5/ Bake for 12-15 minutes until golden brown.
Happy Baking!
healthy eatingTuesday, April 6, 2010
10 Tips On Being Organised When Bathing Your Baby
Bathing your child can become a big ordeal but being organised before hand can make it a relaxing time for both.
To make sure all runs smoothly you will need:
1/ A small bath that can be put on a sturdy stand or on top of a large table or fit into a larger bath.
2/ Fill with water, using the cold water first then the hot. Test the temperature of the water with the elbow. Have the bath set up in a room that can be kept warm and with no drafts.
3/ Shampoo and soap. Both should be suitable for babies. Some normal soaps can be very harsh for little babies skin.
4/ Cotton swabs to wash around the eyes, ears and genital area.
5/ Clean Clothes and new diapers, a couple because accidents often happen and it usually does when you have just put a clean diaper on.
6/ Have two buckets close by. One for dirty clothes, the other for dirty nappies.
7/ Any baby creams that may have to used and talcum powder. Make sure the powder is for babies, as it can be very strong with perfume and this will be to powerful little noses.
8/ Have two towels aired and ready to use hanging close by. You will also need a small hand towel to dry his/her face and head.
9/ Make sure all equipment that is needed is placed close by, In arms reach because you should always keep one hand on your baby at all times. This will prevent your baby rolling of the table and getting hurt.
10/ Just before you start washing, recheck the temperature of the water again, just to be sure. If the water is to hot it can scald the sensitive skin of a new born very quickly.
Take your time when bathing your child and don't panic. Relax and enjoy the experience because they grow up so fast.
To make sure all runs smoothly you will need:
1/ A small bath that can be put on a sturdy stand or on top of a large table or fit into a larger bath.
2/ Fill with water, using the cold water first then the hot. Test the temperature of the water with the elbow. Have the bath set up in a room that can be kept warm and with no drafts.
3/ Shampoo and soap. Both should be suitable for babies. Some normal soaps can be very harsh for little babies skin.
4/ Cotton swabs to wash around the eyes, ears and genital area.
5/ Clean Clothes and new diapers, a couple because accidents often happen and it usually does when you have just put a clean diaper on.
6/ Have two buckets close by. One for dirty clothes, the other for dirty nappies.
7/ Any baby creams that may have to used and talcum powder. Make sure the powder is for babies, as it can be very strong with perfume and this will be to powerful little noses.
8/ Have two towels aired and ready to use hanging close by. You will also need a small hand towel to dry his/her face and head.
9/ Make sure all equipment that is needed is placed close by, In arms reach because you should always keep one hand on your baby at all times. This will prevent your baby rolling of the table and getting hurt.
10/ Just before you start washing, recheck the temperature of the water again, just to be sure. If the water is to hot it can scald the sensitive skin of a new born very quickly.
Take your time when bathing your child and don't panic. Relax and enjoy the experience because they grow up so fast.
Monday, March 29, 2010
Young Drivers Need To Experience The Effects Of Bad Driving
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It's the weekend again and another terrible accident involving a young person.
Are you a parent that dreads the weekends when they arrive because you know that your son or daughter will be out with friends. Are you an over protective mother like me, as my
daughter calls me. I always have this dreadful feeling that if I don't tell her to drive safely that something terrible will happen.
I know I'm being stupid but its just how I feel. I have said it to her from day one of getting her license.
I remember when she had finished school. Heading to Adelaide to celebrate schoolies week as we call it here in Australia. I didn't get to see her before she left so did not get to say it and I couldn't concentrate at work until I had phoned her. Once I had
spoken to her and said it, I was fine.
Statistics have shown that nearly one third of people killed on Australian roads are aged between
16 and 25 yrs. (Department
of Infrastructure Transport Regional Development and Local
16 and 25 yrs. (Department
of Infrastructure Transport Regional Development and Local
Government)
Road crashes are the biggest killers of young people.
In 1987 110 people were killed in crashes aged 18-25. The total has declined from then. In 2008,
38 young people died due to crashes.
This is a huge drop but is still to many when your a parent.
Out of these 38 young drivers 74% were male, 74% were in
a single car crash, 55% occured between
8pm and 6am, 26% on Saturday, 24% on Sunday and 13% a Friday. (weekend)
Distractions are a main concern, along with speed. Results published in the International Journal, Injury Prevention say distractions cause 1 in 5 crashes in drivers.
An Australian study showed that drivers engage in driver distraction on average once every 6 minutes.
Mobile phones, ipods, CD players and other friends are major distractions
and young drivers are almost 5 times more likely to
use a phone while driving according to
(The George Institute For International Health and the University of WA).
Cars these days are made to go way to fast. We are not racing car drivers, why do we need a car that does 280klm hour.
I really don't know what the solution is. Young drivers need help to understand what the consequences will be if they act bad behind the wheel of a car.
Perhaps schools should have a year long course for these young kids. It should be complusory and during the course they perhaps should talk to people involved in accidents at hospitals and prisons. Talk with parents who have lost loved ones.
I feel we need to get it into their heads what the actual result is from making a silly
decision that could ruin their entire life.
teensSunday, March 21, 2010
No Worries
I went out for dinner last night at a nice restaurant with the family for my sister-in-laws birthday. All the kids were there,(best part), running around madly without a care in the world.
Play equipment and a video games room to keep them amused.
I don't ever remember places like this when I brought my daughter up, only maccas. She and her friends would cause so much caos because they were
bored, so this made it a chore when ever we went out.
Do you remember your childhood? You didn't have much to worry about,
only what game to play next or which friend you wanted to come over to stay the night. Being a kid was so much fun,(please, take me back). This is my goddaughter, no worries about anything.
She is three and a real character, some comments that she makes are hilarious. Funny at this age but perhaps when she is older, not so funny, but cheeky.
I asked for a kiss and hug goodbye, as she moved up towards me she put her arms around my neck and said "Now here's a kiss for you, big girl". Planted one right on the mouth.
It completely floored me,I burst out laughing. Now if it had been said to someone who was overweight, they may have taken it the wrong way.
She also said to her father "your mister stinky, but your still my best friend." Now we all laughed, you just can't help it.
Can be so funny when they are young, but what happens as they get older and they still say these words. It can be upsetting to an elderly person but the child does not know any better because they have always had a reaction out of people and usually it is laughter.
Adults can be at fault sometimes, so don't always blame the child for their behaviour. They have most likely learnt their behaviour form adults.
Play equipment and a video games room to keep them amused.
I don't ever remember places like this when I brought my daughter up, only maccas. She and her friends would cause so much caos because they were
bored, so this made it a chore when ever we went out.
Do you remember your childhood? You didn't have much to worry about,
only what game to play next or which friend you wanted to come over to stay the night. Being a kid was so much fun,(please, take me back). This is my goddaughter, no worries about anything.
She is three and a real character, some comments that she makes are hilarious. Funny at this age but perhaps when she is older, not so funny, but cheeky.
I asked for a kiss and hug goodbye, as she moved up towards me she put her arms around my neck and said "Now here's a kiss for you, big girl". Planted one right on the mouth.
It completely floored me,I burst out laughing. Now if it had been said to someone who was overweight, they may have taken it the wrong way.
She also said to her father "your mister stinky, but your still my best friend." Now we all laughed, you just can't help it.
Can be so funny when they are young, but what happens as they get older and they still say these words. It can be upsetting to an elderly person but the child does not know any better because they have always had a reaction out of people and usually it is laughter.
Adults can be at fault sometimes, so don't always blame the child for their behaviour. They have most likely learnt their behaviour form adults.
Monday, March 15, 2010
“Cry Silent Tears”, A Horrific True Story.
This book has shocked me deeply. I have never read a book that has affected me so much, emotionally.
The book is called “Cry Silent Tears” by Joe Peters. It is a true story about his life with a family that is hard to believe can exist.
This is not a family, you cannot call it a family, no family would ever treat their child the way they did.
This book has been at my work place, sitting in the office for just over two weeks. I have picked it up a couple of times and read the back, thinking this is not for me. But when I was leaving for home this night, I made the fatal mistake of reading the first two pages. This started an avalanche, I took it home and could not put it down, It was well after midnight when I finished it.
I cried at the end and a few times through it. Every time I think about it, I get upset.
I cannot comprehend how a human being can do this to another, especially your own child. A mother is suppose to protect their young no matter what, not bring cruelty upon them. This is her own flesh and blood, she carried this little boy for nine months. Why would anyone want to hurt an innocent child?
The cruelty that was bestowed on Joe is unthinkable, to hate your own flesh and blood so much that it drives you to lock him in a cellar for over three years at the age of five. Treat him like an animal, make him eat from the floor, watch as he is sexually assaulted by your boyfriend and assist to restrain him when he fights back. Watch as other siblings perform terrible acts of sexual abuse and sell him to paedophiles just to make money for alcohol. This is not a mother, you can not call her a mother, she is an animal.
People talk of evolution and god and how the world was created. God would not have produced such insane madness for his world, this is the act of an animal, treating another as an animal. We must have evolved from the animal species to have somebody revert to this cruel act.
I just had to write someting down about this, I was so upset with the authorities and that so many opportunities were there to save this little boy, but nobody did. This happened where there were neighbours near by and not one person noticed that a little boy was not seen out the front playing or crying for years. Wasn't going to school.
As a society it is our duty to protect all children, any age, race or children with special needs. We must learn to keep our eyes open and not let this crazy world that we live in consume us. Our busy lives eats at us all and we forget to live and enjoy life, but we need to be watchful of what is happening around us. Don’t think that this does not concern you because it does, it concerns each and every person that lives on this planet and the only way we are going to eradicate these evil doings from our world is to keep vigilant.
PROTECT ALL CHILDREN - PLEASE….
The book is called “Cry Silent Tears” by Joe Peters. It is a true story about his life with a family that is hard to believe can exist.
This is not a family, you cannot call it a family, no family would ever treat their child the way they did.
This book has been at my work place, sitting in the office for just over two weeks. I have picked it up a couple of times and read the back, thinking this is not for me. But when I was leaving for home this night, I made the fatal mistake of reading the first two pages. This started an avalanche, I took it home and could not put it down, It was well after midnight when I finished it.
I cried at the end and a few times through it. Every time I think about it, I get upset.
I cannot comprehend how a human being can do this to another, especially your own child. A mother is suppose to protect their young no matter what, not bring cruelty upon them. This is her own flesh and blood, she carried this little boy for nine months. Why would anyone want to hurt an innocent child?
The cruelty that was bestowed on Joe is unthinkable, to hate your own flesh and blood so much that it drives you to lock him in a cellar for over three years at the age of five. Treat him like an animal, make him eat from the floor, watch as he is sexually assaulted by your boyfriend and assist to restrain him when he fights back. Watch as other siblings perform terrible acts of sexual abuse and sell him to paedophiles just to make money for alcohol. This is not a mother, you can not call her a mother, she is an animal.
People talk of evolution and god and how the world was created. God would not have produced such insane madness for his world, this is the act of an animal, treating another as an animal. We must have evolved from the animal species to have somebody revert to this cruel act.
I just had to write someting down about this, I was so upset with the authorities and that so many opportunities were there to save this little boy, but nobody did. This happened where there were neighbours near by and not one person noticed that a little boy was not seen out the front playing or crying for years. Wasn't going to school.
As a society it is our duty to protect all children, any age, race or children with special needs. We must learn to keep our eyes open and not let this crazy world that we live in consume us. Our busy lives eats at us all and we forget to live and enjoy life, but we need to be watchful of what is happening around us. Don’t think that this does not concern you because it does, it concerns each and every person that lives on this planet and the only way we are going to eradicate these evil doings from our world is to keep vigilant.
PROTECT ALL CHILDREN - PLEASE….
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